When Your Partner/Housemate Isn’t Into Decluttering

This house is too much for me.

I can’t keep up.

The guinea pigs, the floors, the dishes, the laundry, the bathroom, the clutter.

I went through all of my things in April using the KonMari method and asked myself whether or not each item sparked joy. (There are some things in the basement that I didn’t include, like extra kitchen dishes and spices. I need to go through these things to eliminate clutter down there.)

I got rid of a lot of things that didn’t spark joy.

However, not all the systems I set up have lasted. This clearly means I need some new systems and places to put things away and perhaps even to further declutter my personal things.

I want to encourage my partner by being an example and show what it’s like to live without clutter. I think it’s just hard to see through all of the other clutter. 


We are pretty busy. By busy, I mean we like to do things and we have jobs. 

What we don’t like spending our time doing is cleaning up.

A piece of this puzzle is that permanently decluttering provides that clarity and space to actually clean the house regularly. 

If we spend so much time putting things away, we don’t have much will power left to devote to cleaning the house.

So I’m trying to think of things I can do that benefit us both, without coming off as pushy or preachy.

  1. I can do it. People say, “If you want something done, do it yourself.” I agree. It’s a little bit tougher when what you want to do is to someone else’s things. I can make some piles and organize and when he has the time he can go through them. This might show what the place could look like if there were less things. 
  2. I can better develop my own systems of storing my items in hopes of inspiring change. 
  3. I can give up my dream of having a clutter free home.
  4. Just kidding I can’t do that. I WILL NEVER GIVE UP.

If I do something that helps, I will let you know.

Does anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? If so, please give me some insight!